Going through a divorce is an undoubtedly difficult and traumatic time for you and your partner. Of course, it also impacts your children, too, leaving them with stress, fears and concerns that may affect them going forward.
As much as you want to spare them from this, telling them about the split as soon as possible is the best way to go about things. But how do you break the news?
Tailoring your approach
According to Psychology Today, there is no right way to approach discussing divorce. The most important thing to do is tailor the advice you receive so that it suits your child, their behavioral patterns, and how they tend to react to dramatic upheavals in their lives. One size does not fit all when it comes to any part of a divorce, so you need to do your best to determine what will work for you and them.
Reassuring your child
You can still use other divorcees’ advice or the words of professionals as your guidelines, however. Many will offer similar tips, such as reassuring your child as often as possible that they are not at fault, you do not blame them, you are not angry toward them, and you and your co-parent will still love and support them no matter what.
You also want to tell them about the reality of the situation as plainly as possible, and do it as early as you can. This gives them time to digest the information and prepare for the changes, along with asking any questions they may have. Prepare yourself to answer them honestly and simply, and do your best to reassure them that you will progress past these difficulties together.